Encouragement for Single Christians
Are you a single Christian struggling in a world filled with couples? Do you long for a marriage partner or just need encouragement in your calling from God to serve Him as a single Christian? I hope that you will find the encouragement you are looking for here.
Often being a Christian woman can be hard, especially if you are longing to be married. Many churches are family orientated and it can be difficult to find your place. I myself am married now with a Christian husband and a baby boy, but I remember when I was single and found it difficult when all my circle of friends were getting married and starting to having children and I was still single.
God knows your situation. He knows whether you are happy as a single Christian or not. He knows how you are feeling and the worries and frustrations you may have. I sometimes thought it would be good if God had just told me I would one day meet a husband then I would have been content in that fact. But God doesn't work like that, and we need to trust Him that he has the best plans for us. He wants us to trust in Him. It maybe that you will be single all of your life, or only for a season but remember ...
'For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.' (Jeremiah 29:11)
The most important thing to know is that God loves you and wants you to focus all your attention on your relationship with Him. It is when we focus our attention on Jesus and trust Him that we find contentment.
Paul says ... 'I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.' (Philippians 4:11-13)
The devil wants you to believe that life would be better if you were married. I know of Christians who have put their lives on hold, thinking they can serve God better if they were married. This is a lie. The truth is God will use you as a single if you trust in Him. Judges 6:14 says, 'Go in the strength you have, am I not sending you?'
In the following passage, Paul tells us of the advantages of being single.
'An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world - how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.' (1 Corinthians 7:34-34)
If you are a single woman, you can devote more time to God. As a single Christian you may have fewer ties stopping you from serving Him. Your main focus should not be on 'finding a man' it should be on growing in your relationship and serving God.
Jesus says ... 'But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.' (Matthew 6:33)
God wants you to focus on Him. If you focus on your relationship with Him and one day marry, then your husband will be blessed to find a wife devoted to God. If you do not marry and remain single then you will be blessed to have true happiness in your relationship with God. Remember there are many single Christians who God has called to be single for Him. But this may not necessarily be you.
God knows your needs. If you are longing for a husband and waiting for God to answer that prayer. I know it can be hard to wait patiently and especially when you don't know the answer to that prayer. I encourage you to think on the chorus words below from the John Waller song, "While I'm Waiting."
"I will move ahead, bold and confident, Taking every step in obedience, While I'm waiting I will serve You, While I'm waiting I will worship, While I'm waiting I will not faint, I'll be running the race, Even while I wait."
If you are in need of prayer or any further encouragement, then please feel free to e-mail me on firstname.lastname@example.org or see My Blog 'How I met my Husband'.'